05 March 2009

The Joys of Parenthood

For those who are contemplating becoming parents for the first time, preparation is not just a matter of reading books and decorating the nursery. The following are twelve simple tests for expectant parents to help them prepare for the real life experience of being a mother or father. Those who are already parents will be able to confirm the following advice. Don't say you have not been warned.

1. Women: to prepare for maternity, put on a dressing gown and stick a bean bag down the front. Leave it there for nine months. After nine months, take out 10% of the beans. Men: to prepare for paternity, go to the local chemist, tip the contents of your wallet on the counter and tell the pharmacist to help himself. Then go to the supermarket. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office. Go home. Pick up the paper. Read it for the last time.

2. Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who are already parents and berate them about their methods of discipline, lack of patience, appallingly low tolerance levels and how they have allowed their children to run riot. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child's sleeping habits, toilet training, table manners and overall behaviour. Enjoy it - it'll be the last time in your life that you have all the answers.

3. To discover how the nights will feel, walk around the living room from 5pm to 10pm carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 pounds. At 10pm put the bag down, set the alarm for midnight and go to sleep. Get up at midnight and walk around the living room again with the bag until 1am. Set the alarm for 3am. As you cannot get back to sleep, get up at 2am and make a drink. Go to bed at 2.45am. Get up again at 3am when the alarm goes off. Sing songs in the dark until 4am. Put the alarm on for 5am. Get up. Make breakfast. Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful.

4. Can you stand the mess children make? To find out, first smear Marmite onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains. Hide a fish finger behind the stereo and leave it there all summer. Stick your fingers in the flowerbeds, then rub them on the clean walls. Cover the stains with crayons. How does that look?

5. Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems: first buy an octopus and a string bag. Attempt to put the octopus into the string bag so that none of the arms hang out. Time allowed for this - all morning.

6. Take an egg carton. Using a pair of scissors and a pot of paint turn it into an alligator. Now take a toilet roll tube. Using only sticky tape and pieces of foil turn it into a Christmas cracker. Last, take a milk container, a ping pong ball and an empty packet of Coco Pops and make an excellent replica of the Eiffel Tower. Congratulations. You have just qualified for a place on the playgroup committee (or the next presenter of Blue Peter, which at least comes with a salary).

7. Forget the Audi and buy a Ford. Don't think you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that. Buy a choc ice and put it in the glove compartment. Leave it there. Get a 20p piece. Stick it in the cassette/CD player. Take a family size packet of chocolate biscuits. Mash them down the back seats. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car. There. Perfect.

8. Get ready to go out. Wait outside the loo for half an hour. Go out the front door. Come in again. Go out. Come back in. Go out again. Walk down the front path. Walk back up it. Walk down it again. Walk very slowly down the road for 5 minutes. Stop to inspect minutely every cigarette-end, piece of used chewing gum and dead insect along the way. Retrace your steps. Scream that you have had as much as you can stand until the neighbours come out and stare at you. Give up and go back to the house. You are just about ready to try taking a small child for a walk.

9. Always repeat everything you say at least five times. I said, always repeat everything you say at least five times. I SAID, ALWAYS REPEAT EVERYTHING YOU SAID FIVE TIMES!!!!

10. Go to your local supermarket. Take with you the nearest thing you can find to a pre-school child - a fully-grown goat is excellent. If you intend to have more than one child, take more than one goat. Buy your week's groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goats eat or destroy. Until you can accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children.
11. Hollow out a melon. Make a small hole in the side. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side. Now get a bowl of soggy Weetabix and attempt to spoon it into the swaying melon by pretending to be an aeroplane. Continue until half the Weetabix is gone. Tip the rest into your lap making sure that a lot of it falls on the floor. Now you are ready to feed a 12-month-old baby.

12. Learn the names of every character from Postman Pat, Fireman Sam, Teenage Mutant Turtles, Teletubbies etc. When you find yourself singing "Postman Pat" at work you finally qualify as a parent. Well done!

This was given to me when Kay was a toddler. It made me laugh then. It still does. By the way, no children were harmed in the compilation of these tests! Incidentally this is not based on my experience with Kay. She was an angel (apart from the first 8 years of not sleeping through a single night).


Julie said...

I love No 8, inspecting every cigarette end, piece of chewing gum, dead insect etc.
I have been there and done that and now Im doing it again with my grandaughter!
But with a lot more patience this time around!(or time, maybe)

Saz said...

this is brilliant.....so true and so funny, some may think its a laugh but its sooo true...great post!!!

Robert said...

Huh! If only parenthood was that easy!!

Wendy said...

I love this. It gives a clue to a fraction of the frustrations of parenting!

My little angel wasn't child who slept either. The only time she would sleep was while being pushed in her pram, or driven around in my car. "Sleep when baby sleeps" they told me. How, for the love of our sweet sweet Lord, HOW???!!

I'm so glad she sleeps now, and even if she didn't, isn't pushed in a pram anymore!

Nota Bene said...

Now why did you not post this 14 years ago?

Strawberry Jam Anne said...

Oh Rosiero - that made me laugh and it is ALL SO TRUE. I'm now at grandchildren stage and reliving some of it through my, now worn out, offspring! I shall copy this and send to my daughter and hopefully convince her that she is not a terrible mother. A x

Paula & Skip said...

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abcd said...

Very funny! I will definately be passing it on.

Flowerpot said...

It was No 8 that got me as well - and the repeating things as well! Very good...

Ellen said...

Very witty, your blog really made me chuckle. Loved no. 11 - trying to feed the swinging melon with weetabix - oh, those were the days!

Kit Courteney said...

I have to say, reading "apart from the first 8 years of not sleeping through a single night", I feel like a positive angel!

My parents (bless 'em) have always told me (and considering I am 38 now, and they STILL tell me, so I guess it stayed with them a bit... wa ha ha ha) that I did not sleep through a single night for FIVE years.

Only five, though.

I clearly have nothing on your daughter!

Anonymous said...


And people keep asking me why I don't want anymore kids.

I might print this off and show it to the next inquisitive "friend"!

CJ xx

Grumpy Old Ken said...

Very good. My daughter is expecting her third in April. She has just bought a second hand people carrier and says it makes her feel very old!

Expat mum said...

Brilliant - and so true for most of us. I always say to parents-in-waiting, "You will not die from lack of sleep. You may think you're going to die,; you may want to die, but you'll get through it."

Working Mum said...

I read this last week but didn't have time to comment. I love number 8!!!

I knew some of this beforehand, but still I went and did it! (Never again, though)

blogthatmama said...

Ooh that takes me back! Danny Boy used to spend hours in other people's gardens, inspecting the contents, with me "cajoling" him to come out. He also would only go to sleep in his cot with the vacuum cleaner on full blast and woke up the minute it was turned off - no wonder I lost two stone! Excellent.

Femin Susan said...

Very cute pictures...... Thank you for sharing!

Millennium Housewife said...

that really really made me laugh! I'm going to send the link to a few friends who are at the point of no return! MH