28 January 2010

In memory of my Dad

I am off for two weeks to be with my mum again. You'll be pleased to know that I am taking Snoopy with me this time, as I am going by car. Now I have a laptop at long last, I can take it with me too and hope to keep in touch with the blogging world and emails rather than having to wait till I get back and plough through what I have missed. I hope to set up broadband at my mother's, so it will be a bit of a luxury for me. I am going for a number of reasons: to do a lot of household chores for my mum; to take her out and about; to get away from the alcoholic daze madhouse; to spend some time with my two bestest friends (we are having a long-needed reunion weekend nearby); and to be with my mum for "a very important reason".


The 1st February is a very important date in our family calendar. It is the date my dearly loved father was ripped from our midst nine years ago. I have not always been able to be with my mother at this time, as in the past I had other commitments, but this year, thankfully, I have the freedom to do as I choose. My father was (to me) a very special man who almost didn't make it past the age of 14 let alone the age he reached. His life was remarkable. I wrote about him before here. Not a day goes by when I don't look at a huge photo of him by my bedside. He is sorely missed by me and my mother who still sheds bucketloads of tears for him - they were soulmates. Dad was instrumental in giving Kay her love for medicine (see here). He would be so proud of her and so upset to see what has become of Greg and me. I sometimes "talk" to him and ask him for his advice. I like to think he is listening. I still miss him so very much. It does not seem possible that it is already the ninth anniversary.


25 comments:

nuttycow said...

Rosiero - have a lovely time with your mother and friends. You deserve some time off.

x

Nota Bene said...

What a wonderful man your Dad was...I wonder if he knew my Mum's cousin who also worked in the same circles...have fun with your bestest friends...

Furtheron said...

Just read this and the My Dad post.

What a story. What a man - to have come through all that.

Today is a big one for us - my wife's brother died in 1982 on this day - aged 21. He simply didn't wake up that morning.

Things to remind me to be especially grateful for my life and my family

Flowerpot said...

He sounds a wonderful man - hope you have a well dserved rest. And I'm so glad you're taking Snoopy!

Nechtan said...

Hi Rosiero,

I just read the post about your father for the first time. It was very moving. What a remarkable life he had and his family done unbelievably well to get out of that situation in the war. I can't even begin to imagine what his brother saw in his 3 months away. Your dad has left a very inspirational legacy and if he can stil hear then I have no doubt he is still listening.

I hope you enjoy your 2 week break as much as Snoopy will. Try not to let the return burden you.

All the best

Nechtan

aims said...

I'm so glad you can do this. Enjoy yourself and maybe make it three weeks instead of two.

Strawberry Jam Anne said...

So pleased that you can be with your Mum at this time Rosiero, it will be good for you both. My own father died 28 years ago. I can hardly believe that it is so long ago. I still often find myself wishing that I just sit down and chat to him.

Gill - That British Woman said...

enjoy your time with your mother.....

Gill in Canada

Linda - Gold Coast said...

I was so moved by this post Rosiero, I couldn't help but cry. What a beautiful soul your Father was and how you and your Mum must miss him. I'm sure you, your Mum and Snoopy will treasure the next two weeks. I cannot help feeling sad for Greg, why did he have to travel down this road. Take good care♥

Crystal Jigsaw said...

A lovely post. Your dad passed the same year as mine, but nine years still feels like yesterday.

Glad you're able to get bb up and running at your mums, don't know what I'd do without mine!

CJ xx

Ellen said...

Enjoy your two-week break. I will be thinking of you on the 1st. I remember reading the post about your Father before and he struck me as a remarkable man.

Robert said...

You've set me off thinking about (and dreadfully missing) my own father. If only I could fill his shoes...

Hadriana's Treasures said...

Have fun, Rosiero. I know it will be a hard time in many ways (because of the memories). Your dad will also be there with you all. Hxx

Elaine said...

That's a beautiful song.

Have a wondeful break; You deserve them all. x

June said...

It is good that you and your mother will be together on a mournful occasion. I hope and trust that you will be comfort for each other. I lost my father forty-eight years ago and still, if I think too long about him, it's as if it was yesterday.

I expect you did your Easter Egg treasure hunt exercise again for Greg. It's too bad that wouldn't work with his medications, on which I would guess he is also clinically dependent. But he wouldn't take them anyway, so what's the point.

Well, have a good time away and I'll bet your cute Snoopy will enjoy himself thoroughly, being spoiled by two loving women.

Absolutely Write said...

Good for you, hope the trip goes well and you get some time to relax.

Footballers Knees said...

Rosiero - I've just read the post about your dad for the first time. What an excelent post, so moving. He's sounds like an inspirational man and you must miss him very much. I hope you enjoy the time with your mum. x

Ladybird World Mother said...

I hope that 1st Feb was a good day for you all. Am going to go and read your post about him now. xx

Ladybird World Mother said...

Read it. What a wonderful man... I would love to have met him. You are truly blessed to have had such a father. And I bet he DOES look out for you, and urge you on. x

dulwich divorcee said...

He sounds like a wonderful man. I hope you and your mother can have a celebration in his memory xx

DogLover said...

Have a good time, Rosiero.

What drink will Greg be able to have while you're away? In other words, what have you left for him this time?

cheshire wife said...

Your father sounded like a very special man. My father also nearly did not make it to old age as a result of WW2 for different reasons to yours. He was my first love and I have a photo of him on my dressing table.

I hope that you can enjoy your time with your mother.

Working Mum said...

Hope you have a good time with your mum despite the reason. Sounds like you are setting up a home from home there, or is it a little bolt hole?

Retiredandcrazy said...

My dad was my rock too Rosiero. How awful for children that, for whatever reason, don't have this. Too stressful to think of. Enjoy you time with you mother.

Crystal Jigsaw said...

The strikethrough icon is on mine! I don't understand if it's not on yours. I've got an extra button!!

CJ xx