02 March 2010

Intensive Care Unit

I was called yesterday evening to visit the hospital, as Greg's condition has worsened and he had been moved to Intensive Care. They told me he was unable to breathe on his own and would almost certainly die if they did not intubate him. I rushed in to visit him, although he was unconscious and medical staff were pulling him about.He is now wired up to a bank of machines and fighting for his life. He is so weak from the pneumonia and has so many things wrong with him besides. Kay left Yorkshire at 5am this morning and was with me by 9am. Greg's sister drove down from Lincolnshire and arrived at 9.30am. Together we drove to the hospital this morning and put on a united front but our feelings go from pity to anger and all the emotions inbetween. The next 24-48 hours are crucial. Please pray for us.

46 comments:

AnyEdge said...

God Bless you Addy. Thank you for sharing this with us. It is so helpful to me.

Very Bored in Catalunya said...

I've been following your blog for a while but never commented. I am hoping and praying that he makes a speedy recovery. xx

Kit Courteney said...

Oh dear me, how distressing for you all.

Thinking about you and hoping for the best.

icecold said...

Sending you strength, hope and love.
xxxxx

aims said...

My dear friend. I'm not sure what the best would be for Greg. His quality of life has disappeared into the bottle and being unable to walk and addicted....

Perhaps if he pulls through this might be what helps him kick it once and for all.

As for you and yours - know that my thoughts are with you all. I know how stressful it is and what thoughts go through our heads as we wait in the ICU rooms to hear results or sit beside the bed and hold a hand.

You are stronger than strong and have many friends who are praying for you and Greg.

Strawberry Jam Anne said...

You obviously have many friends Addy and I count myself among your blog world friends. My prayers are with you and Greg and your family. A x

nappy valley girl said...

My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. x

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Frosty said...

I've been sitting here for the best part of an hour trying to think what to say. It's such an awful situation, nothing seems enough...

My thoughts are with you all x

Millennium Housewife said...

here with you Rosiero xx

Nechtan said...

Hi Addy,

My thoughts are with you and your own. I really hope the next 24-48 hours brings some good news for you.

Best wishes,

Nechtan

Robert said...

My thoughts are with you. I hope the outcome is a good one...

what happened ?how did i get HERE? said...

Thinking of you and your family. xxx

Almost American said...

Oh Addy - thanks for keeping us updated at such a stressful time for you! Like other commenters, I find it hard to know what to say other than I am thinking of you and hope all turns out for the best.

Linda said...

Oh Addy it's very difficult to find the right words to comfort you. I was so sad to read your update on Greg and my thoughts and prayers are being sent to you, Kay, all Greg's family and friends. I'm hoping that Greg will be given a second chance to regain his life again. ♥Linda xoxo

Elaine said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you all. x

DogLover said...

Thank you for keeping us up to date at this terrible time. Stay strong.

"... our feelings go from pity to anger and all the emotions in between". Pity is better than anger: remember, AA says "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable". I firmly believe that is right, having myself witnessed alcoholism at first hand.

Nota Bene said...

Praying

elsy said...

love and strength to you and kay

http://reluctantmemsahib.wordpress.com said...

love and strength and thoughts and prayers and everything else that helps even a little for you and kay x

pinafive said...

this is bad news, i'm sorry. i can so see how you would be caught between pity and anger.

my drinking put me in the ICU 3 1/2 weeks ago, and I felt terrible for my parents who had to go through seeing me this way and it being self-inflicted.

i pray the memory will keep me motivated in my recovery and i pray that greg will pull through and this will help HIM in his recovery somehow... that this turns out to be a silver-lining situation for your family.

laurie said...

oh, i wish you the very very best. you are in my thoughts, dear. this has been such a long and difficult road.

grandmamargie said...

May God have His will in your and your family's lives. I'm praying for you, Kay and Greg. I pray for strength, peace and wisdom for you all.

Ellen said...

I am praying for your dear Greg and, of course, for you and Kay too. Keep strong. Dx

Crystal Jigsaw said...

I pray for You. God Bless.

CJ xx

MsCatCalls said...

It feels like there are no right words but you always seem to find them in your blog and to express yourself so eloquently . Greg has been lucky to have you supporting him through thick and thin . I hope you and Kay have real life support as well as your blog friends . Thinking of you x

Flowerpot said...

I am so sorry Addy. Words are pretty inadequate at a time like this so just to say I'm thinking of you and Kay but I know you will have the strength to deal with whatever happens. This has to be a turning point of some kind. Big hugs xxxx

dragondays said...

Oh, heavens - I've just read this. I hope all is okay.

Working Mum said...

Will pray for you, Kay and Greg. ICU can be the place of miracles, let's hope you get one.
WM x

tim1leg said...

you are all in my prayers x

David Clark said...

Thinking of you. Take care of yourself

KatduGers said...

Oh god, thinking of you. At least you and Kay are together to be strong for each other. Lots of love x

Rebel Mother said...

Holy Moly! What is happening here?

I've caught up with all your posts and Rosiero I'm so sorry about Greg. Its awful for him, but also very dreadful for us to see our loved ones like this.

Keep strong my darling and thinking you.

Much love RM xx

nuttycow said...

Fingers crossed.

A Friend of Bill said...

In the last week or so I went through the same thing with my alcoholic brother. I'm sending you lots of positive thoughts and I understand what it feels like to watch someone you love destroy themselves. If you want to read how similar our stories are, please feel free to take a look here: http://onealcoholicsjourney.blogspot.com/2010_02_26_archive.html
And take care.

Furtheron said...

Praying and thinking of you

Stay strong for each other

Brit in Bosnia / Fraught Mummy said...

I frequently read, but have not commented. But I'm thinking of you all. x

The Merry said...

Prayers and positive thoughts. Wish I could send a hug through the Ethernet cables.

Helen P said...

I'm another who has not commented before, but am jumping out of lurkdom to wish you all the very best. I'm so sorry to hear of these developments and I am sending hugs, love, and praying for you all.

cheshire wife said...

I have just caught up with your blog. I am so sorry for what you are having to go through and hope that you can find the strength to get through it.

Gill - That British Woman said...

saying a prayer for you and your family.......

Gill in Canada

Eurodog said...

I am so sorry.

nancy said...

Thoughts are with you at this immensely distressing time. Whatever happens you will find your strength.

Elaine said...

Thinking of you. xxx

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tearlessnights said...

Following you through the alcoholic daze of "Greg's" illness and death (belatedly) has been really hard because as I am reading it, my husband was in the hospital with severe stomach pains from alcohol. I read about Greg's ulcer and thought "I wonder if Mr. M has an ulcer?" etc.
That Greg died REMINDS me the Mr. M could die. That Greg knew he was killing himself and didn't care enough about himself or you or Kay to deny himself his escape and to stick around for you two is HORRIFYING and yet that is what Mr. M is doing too.
I think we sometimes forget that if alcoholics keep drinking, the only 3 options for where they will end up is in jail, insane, or dead. It is a deadly and heartbreaking disease.
I am so sorry for your loss (years & years before Greg actually died) and I am sorry for mine and PRAY it doesn't have to be permanent like your is.