tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post661803928496561987..comments2024-03-27T04:35:59.203+00:00Comments on Alcoholic Daze: Bad bad newsADDYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01018958238940897902noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-66033329517646542932017-11-16T18:07:15.102+00:002017-11-16T18:07:15.102+00:00I'm so sorry to hear this, Addy, how utterly d...I'm so sorry to hear this, Addy, how utterly devastating. I really feel for you. Sending you much love to get through this. XXDD's Diaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05398659302311180518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-37951117366807842192017-11-10T17:06:52.676+00:002017-11-10T17:06:52.676+00:00I am just now reading this. I am so sorry about th...I am just now reading this. I am so sorry about this.afterthefire1964https://www.blogger.com/profile/17718515709192293074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-70383998910915382792017-11-10T12:32:39.918+00:002017-11-10T12:32:39.918+00:00Hey, so sorry to read all this bad news and misery...Hey, so sorry to read all this bad news and misery. I'll be thinking of you, Kay and your mum. Nota Benehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969705852180234416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-63861165687631541082017-11-06T06:40:51.433+00:002017-11-06T06:40:51.433+00:00Addy,
I cannot even imagine what you are experienc...Addy,<br />I cannot even imagine what you are experiencing; losing my grandmother was terrible for me and worse on my mother and aunt. After working in eldercare for a few years, I have seen the comfort that medical treatment can provide patients in similar situations, including Grandma, who went through extreme dementia but always retained some good memories - especially of my grandfather though he had passed over ten years previously. She's comfortable, so try to let that comfort you. It sounds like she is looking back on cheerful times - that's a great thing. There is no way to ultimate way to provide comfort to you, but for what it's worth, I provided care for a number of women until their time came to transition, and the thing that consistently resonated, regardless of whether or not they were on pain medications or psychiatric meds was that they were all very peaceful in the months or year before leaving our presence. In each person, there seemed to be a defining moment when dementia had officially arrived, but there was a positive side. A new kind of peace that I had not seen in anyone seemed to surround them in the last months. It took awhile to put this into perspective (certainly due to my age and ignorance) since I never believed that there could be peace in that situation, but I witnessed no suffering and a lucid calmness. Certainly this will not make things simple or less painful for you, bit I do hope that you may be able to take comfort in learning what I've witnessed to be more common in this difficult situation. Much love to you and yours; take time for yourself through proper nutrition to keep your clarity and stress reasonable. Sleep when you are able. Try yoga videos on YouTube to rid the nervous energy and frustration (Erica Vetra has a good 25 minute beginners session that keeps me level when life is overwhelming). I normally don't "talk to strangers" online, but coming by your post inspired me to reach out and support you. There have been surprising times when a random person has been able to help me with advise when I am too overwhelmed to find my own way. You'll find yours; remain confident with mindful communication and by nourishing yourself and others while not overextending your energy.LJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04382960321972552291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-31542052582235741442017-11-04T17:36:28.110+00:002017-11-04T17:36:28.110+00:00I'm really sorry to read that Addy. Thinking ...I'm really sorry to read that Addy. Thinking about you and sending you lots of love and strength. Take time to sit and hold her hand. I'm so glad I took time to sit and hold my father's and whilst he was dying. It made a difference to us both. Thinking about you xxxxAGuidingLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823333742737762759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-10321498956067100342017-11-03T00:53:41.367+00:002017-11-03T00:53:41.367+00:00My thoughts are with you and your daughter, such a...My thoughts are with you and your daughter, such a difficult time for everyone. Including the hospital staff, as I know they would like to give you good news instead of bad. I hope the nursing home can give you all some comfort.Shammickitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11969803866899076638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-55793726259778682202017-10-29T22:17:26.753+00:002017-10-29T22:17:26.753+00:00I'm so sorry, Addy. Many years ago my Dad did...I'm so sorry, Addy. Many years ago my Dad did the mental confusion thing. He talked to me as though I was a friend and we were both still children. I think it's more distressing for the listener than it is for the confused parent. It was as though he was no longer with us, but he was. Going through it is something I wouldn't wish on anybody.<br />I hope she's more comfortable in a nursing home, and you must look after yourself as well. Thinking of you.the veg artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04029588460808570133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-21214699112545003762017-10-29T18:39:57.765+00:002017-10-29T18:39:57.765+00:00Oh, I'm so sorry. I don't think you ever g...Oh, I'm so sorry. I don't think you ever get over your parents' deaths - it's five years since my mum died - both parents lingered, bed-bound, in hospital as they faded away. I miss my mother every day. I wish you strength - and comfort in your lovely daughter. Pam https://www.blogger.com/profile/12641269043817163165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-6112468353147090792017-10-29T09:40:45.069+00:002017-10-29T09:40:45.069+00:00So sorry to hear that Anna. I wish you strength to...So sorry to hear that Anna. I wish you strength to cope with the weeks ahead. xADDYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018958238940897902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-5590476635282316652017-10-28T23:06:14.026+01:002017-10-28T23:06:14.026+01:00Very sorry Addy. My mother has a low white blood ...Very sorry Addy. My mother has a low white blood count and is poorly. My father died on Thursday so we're going through it too. Anna of Mutton Style and Yearshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17123818835370240987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-3147506240168501522017-10-28T14:10:47.441+01:002017-10-28T14:10:47.441+01:00I am so sorry to hear the news about your mother. ...I am so sorry to hear the news about your mother. It's not a nice way to go - untreatable infection while entering a drug-induced haze. She should be sitting in a rocking chair watching the sun sinking down while recollecting her long and eventful life.Yorkshire Puddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019673884543913089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-39886648957571244122017-10-27T08:54:34.522+01:002017-10-27T08:54:34.522+01:00So sorry. There is no easy/adequate way, either to...So sorry. There is no easy/adequate way, either to say this or to endure it. The cycle of life/ death just goes on and leaves us with empty holes.<br />Please know that you are in my thoughts and that I care.<br />Maggie xMaggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-72121732992965078222017-10-26T22:55:42.060+01:002017-10-26T22:55:42.060+01:00Oh Addy I don't know what to say, I have tears...Oh Addy I don't know what to say, I have tears in my eyes after reading your latest news. I hope your dear mum will soon be moved to a care home, it might not make much difference to her condition but it will help you and Kay to see her more comfortable and receiving more attention.Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10502031456581056874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-33522048513171168872017-10-26T17:27:23.367+01:002017-10-26T17:27:23.367+01:00My deep sympathies for what the three of you are g...My deep sympathies for what the three of you are going through. The process of losing your mother, seeing her in pain and dealing with your own grief....all very hard things. Take good care of yourself during this time.Linda dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01167854309289774316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-91432528925327341082017-10-26T15:47:48.993+01:002017-10-26T15:47:48.993+01:00I am so sad for you Addy (and Kay) and do so hope ...I am so sad for you Addy (and Kay) and do so hope your mum’s pain can be managed effectively once she is transferred to a nursing home, although it is probable this will increase her unresponsiveness. <br /><br />As one who worked in care/nursing homes for many years, I do know that she will receive more attention, as in making her as comfortable as possible and regular input from staff, district nurses and GP’s. But I guess this is small comfort now.<br /><br />Despite the NHS being under severe pressure, it is unforgivable that you and Kay had to push and push for consultant input and until that time, you were left helpless and unknowledgeable of you mum’s condition. When you feel the time is right I would strongly suggest you contact PALS, for lessons need to be learnt here and urgent changes made.<br /><br />I am so sad to hear of your friends husband too Addy.<br /><br />Please know my thoughts are with you and Kay and of course your dear mum.<br /><br />The kindest of regards<br />Anna<br />hyperCRYPTICalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11967085628384237933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3978906014166411621.post-76622161634964143392017-10-26T14:56:56.048+01:002017-10-26T14:56:56.048+01:00I am a Portuguese reader,so maybe I can not expres...I am a Portuguese reader,so maybe I can not express myself in the most appropriate way. <br />You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and I wish you strength and courage in these difficult times.angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05211299787685602838noreply@blogger.com