26 October 2012

Intensive care

The bed is made, fresh towels laid out and a hearty meal is cooking on the stove. Kay is coming home for the weekend complete with infected tonsils. She rang earlier in the week to say she felt she had swallowed a razorblade, had a bit of a fever and felt very sick. She fancied a weekend at home and a bit of TLC and requested her favourite meal of cock-a-leekie soup with dumplings. I'll have you know my dumplings are renowned! ( Yes, all right, all right.)

I've bought a huge jar of Manuka honey. That and the dumplings are going to stick to those tonsils and fight it out (although the doctor has prescribed antibiotics in the event it gets any worse, but has said not to take them if at all possible). For two whole days, Kay and I will curl up on the sofa, watch DVDs and have a giggle.

My kind of intensive care.

picture from www.allrecipes.co.uk

21 comments:

Almost American said...

Sorry to hear Kay's sick, but how nice that she just wanted to be home with her mum! Hope you have a lovely weekend!

SH -ic said...

mummys are the best docs ;))

Kelloggs Ville said...

lovely she wants to come home to get better. snuggle up xx

Crystal Jigsaw said...

If that doesn't cure her I don't know what will! Hope she starts to recover very soon.

CJ x

Ellen said...

That sounds like the kind of medicine that could cure most things. Hope Kay will be feeling much better after the weekend. Enjoy a lovely snuggle and a good giggle xx

nappy valley girl said...

She is very lucky to have you. x

natalie nessi said...

I like the idea of that. Very clever indeed. Get well soon. I know she'll recover fast.

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Working Mum said...

Poor girl, tonsillitis is really horrible. Nothing like a mum's tlc to help you through it, though.

165ab330-ba3b-11e1-90d1-000f20980440 said...

I still remember the pain of tonsilitis and the pain of having the tonsils out - and that was 66 years ago! And recently I had manuka honey stuffed into the hole in my chest where a cyst had been removed! Best wishes for Kay's recovery. And mum, nice for you to have her back - it's an ill wind, etc ...!

Gone Back South said...

Ooh sounds lovely. I'm planning some sofa time at the end of the week (but I hope my kids don't get sick and actually need it). Wish her better. x

Strawberry Jam Anne said...

The very best kind. Get well soon Kay.

Flowerpot said...

That sounds almost worth being ill for...! HOpe you have a lovely few days with Kay and she gets better soon.

DD's Diary said...

Enjoy your duvet days! I love it when my girls are ill, we curl up and watch Pride and Prejudice (yes, the one with Colin). Very medicinal ;)

Grumpy Old Ken said...

Ah, the joys of being a mother!

Retiredandcrazy said...

Get well soon Kay.

Nota Bene said...

Hope she's better now...I think you must have been over the moon to be able to mother her again! Perhaps she will prescribe cock-a-leekie and dumplings when she's qualified...

LizzieB said...

Hi Addy. I am 36. I lost my 55 year old husband of five years to alcoholism 2 days ago. I have stayed up all night reading your blog. I saw so many similarities. Unfortunately, my husband never got the chance to even try again after detox. It had all become too much. I am so sad.

ADDY said...

Lizzie - so sorry to hear about your husband. I hope you have some family around you to help you come to terms with this and cope with what lies ahead. If not, do try Al-Anon. It is not everybody's cup of tea but it is sometimes nice to be in a place where you can openly talk about what you have gone through and how you are feeling without being judged. If you look online, you will find a group near you. Take one day at a time - it's amazing how it can get you through the most difficult of situations. Hugs and best wishes. Addy

LizzieB said...

Thank you Addy. My family believe Rob 'killed himself' and that if he really loved me as much as he proclaimed to he would not have gone down this path. Apparently if I do not 'sort myself out' I will be in a padded cell or dead. My brother shouts at me when all I ask people to do is listen. They don't know the demons that Rob had. They make me feel that I should stop loving him because of the way and reason he died. Everything I try to say they interject with 'ah, but....'. It is desperate enough without him being here to defend and comfort me, and yes, I have to admit I was his enabler but he truthfully believed he never had a problem before it was too late. It was so hard for me - I kept on urging him to get help (which he refused) but just like you in the end I couldn't bear to see him suffer what we're clearly withdrawals. I feel so displaced and abandoned as I can't go back to our home, and the life I had has just disappeared.

ADDY said...

Hi Lizzie

If friends and family are not being supportive in the way you would like, then I think you need to find support elsewhere. Now your partner has gone, YOU are the one who is damaged by the alcoholic disease and need help. Talk to your GP and see if they can advise anything, but do try Al-Anon. If you click on the "useful contacts" tab at the top of my blog and then click on the Help for Relatives/Al-Anon link, it will lead you to where there is a meeting near you. As I have said before, it is not everyone's cup of tea, but you will find loads of people who have gone or are going through exactly what you and I have. They will be your support. Sometimes it is having a sympathetic ear just to listen that can help. Sometimes just being able to say something out loud can clear your thinking. If you would prefer to email me rather than write openly on here, my blog email is alcdaz@hotmail.co.uk
Hugs
Addy

ADDY said...

Lizzie

I should also add, that Rob's drinking and death had nothing to do with whether he loved you or not. Alcoholism is a disease just like cancer or depression or gallstones. The sufferer cannot help the fact they are alcoholic any more than you can tell cancer or depression to go away. He more than likely did not want to kill himself, but he could do nothing to prevent it, any more than a heroin addict can stop fixing or an anorexic can eat. Do not blame yourself either. It is a disease which is inherent in some people and not others, so you did not cause it. Please believe that. Time is a great healer and you will find yourself getting stronger as time goes by, but it is all too raw for you at the moment, which is why you need to find support and help.